You have already decided that you are getting married, you have everything organized and you are not missing anything, but there is a small detail that you may have overlooked. Write the wedding vows! And, without a doubt, one of the most important and emotional moments in a ceremony is saying the marriage vows or wedding vows, a manifesto of love between the couple in the new stage of their life. It should be noted that they are related to religious marriage, but do not have their origin in it. Let’s clarify some important points related to marriage vows.
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1. What are marriage vows
The first thing to do is clarify what marriage vows are. Are the promises that couples make to each other and that seal their commitment during the ceremony and delivery of alliances wedding A promise of love that they make to each other, offering respect and fidelity until death do them part.
Traditionally, it is the officiant who is in charge of pronouncing these promises that couples make to each other during the wedding. We are used to hearing predetermined and more serious votes. For example: “I take you as my legitimate spouse, so that we two may be one from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, for prosperity or for adversity. , to take care of you and love you until death do us part.”
But, nowadays, thanks to civil ceremonies, the links can be totally personalized. Many couples seek to change that part of the ceremony and get away from the classic “in health and in sickness, in wealth and in poverty“, so they themselves write and pronounce these much more original vows. This part of the wedding thus becomes more personal, emotional and perhaps fun..
2. How to write wedding vows
It is never easy to face blank paper and start writing, especially when it is such a special moment in your lives. Therefore, the main thing is that you let your feelings flow and try to reflect in the form of a promise everything you feel for each other. Take note of these tips:
- Leave your vows for the end of the ceremony. Let it be the climax of so much emotion. The final touch.
- If you put music that is in the background, soft. The important thing is the words.
- Express yourself as you are. Let it come out from within you, natural, sincere.
- Use your own language. There is a line between funny and ridiculous. Talk about the person in front of you and why you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
- Be brief. Keep in mind that you will probably get excited, so something brief is better. A couple of minutes is enough.
- Better from memory than reading, but a paper copy is always good. In large print and on cardboard, better than on a sheet of paper that can blow away in the wind.
- If you get too excited, stop. Breathe, drink water. Don’t try to rush through your speech in order to finish, because that will only make you more nervous.
- Rehearse in front of the mirror (stopwatch in hand) as many times as necessary. It helps a lot.
- Yeah you speak different languagesbe brave and, if you control your partner’s language a little, dare to say your vows in the other’s language.
- If you have an officiant or master of ceremonies and you have any concerns, do not hesitate to ask them. He or she will have experience on the subject and will know how to advise you.
Advice: it is important that before writing them you agree on the style. Whether it is more romantic or more humorous, for example, so that your speeches follow the same line. You can give each other some clues but nothing more, because the ideal is that you don’t tell each other anything and that way you can surprise you mutually. Surely you refer to the same things and you will also surprise your guests.
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For end the speech It is always good to remind the other that you love them and that you will always be there. After the most colorful part, you can give it a more romantic style, because at the end of the day you are celebrating your love. Use words from the heart, those that you probably feel and have never been able to express. Words that excite and fill your eyes with true happiness.
To help you in this task we are going to give you some examples of different types of wedding vows that may inspire you.
3. Original marriage vows
These vows are ideal for couples who want to give a different touch to their day. You can start by making a list of your partner’s virtues, what made you fall in love with him or her. You can mention that first date, a song… Take your time to write them. It’s not easy, but when something is done with love, it turns out well. Review them after a while, read them aloud and add and correct them. With this type of vows you will surely be able to surprise your partner and all the attendees. We leave you some examples:
“I promise you that I want to travel the world with you and that we will travel as much as we can“.
“On Sundays I will cook, but only if you then let me watch those movies that I like so much.”
“I promise we’ll go to Mexican for dinner at least once a month.”
“I promise that we will never go to sleep angry and I will do everything I can to always ease your anger.”
“I promise I’ll wake up earlier so I can continue making your coffee every morning.”
“I promise to try to make every day a new adventure and make you a mini surprise.”
“I promise to write you a post-it every day telling you something nice.”
“I promise to sleep cuddling even if my arm falls asleep.”
“I promise not to take up your side of the closet and invade your space.”
“I promise to watch football (at least your team’s), even if it bores me to death.”
“I promise to be patient and not get angry every time I see your clothes lying around the house.”
“I promise to love you with your flaws, your quirks and those little things that drive me crazy, but that I adore.”
4. Romantic wedding vows
For hopeless romantics, for those looking to thrill their partner and everyone present at their wedding, the perfect wedding vows are the romantic ones. Those that make the person share their feelings towards the other person, the one that says it with the most beautiful, sweetest and most affectionate words. We leave you some examples of this type:
“I love you and I promise to always do so.”
“May sincerity, respect, passion and love always be the values that support what we do…”.
“Because we don’t need big things, because I just need you to be by my side to be happy.”
“I promise that, in this life that awaits us together, I will always be by your side, always…”.
“I’ll love you even when you get on my nerves.”
“I promise you that I will never stop admiring you, because I will never stop learning from you.“.
“During these years together, you have been the best boyfriend/girlfriend in the world, and I am sure you are going to be the best husband/wife. Deep down it is the same, change the label…”.
“Love is not an emotion, but an impulse, a need, my need to be by your side.”
“In my entire life I have never been happier than right now as I am with you.”
“You are my life partner, my other half, without you I am nothing…”.
“Love is what I feel when I look into your eyes.”
“The heart races, the nerves begin and that feeling of butterflies in the stomach begins.”
5. Fun wedding vows
If you want to escape the romanticism of weddings and make different vows that will bring out the smiles and, why not?, also the laughter of your wedding guests, the best thing is to write some funny vows. For this type of vow, it is best that you bring out “the worst” in the other person in a good way: their quirks, their passions, their obsessions, their small defects that, although you love them, sometimes also drive you a little crazy. We leave you some examples:
“I promise not to fall asleep when we put on our favorite series and make you watch it again.”
“I promise to put up with your strange musical tastes when we go in the car.”
“I promise to watch the horror movies that you like so much and I hate.”
“I promise to dress up as your favorite character at the premiere of the movies.” Star Wars“.
“I promise to always replenish the toilet paper.”
“I promise not to shave right after we clean the bathroom.”
“I promise to learn how to cook and cook you more than just salads.”
“I promise to take the clothes out of the washing machine if it’s done and I’m home.”
“I promise not to get desperate and angry when you don’t stop snoring all night.”
“I promise to skip my diet once a week to go to your favorite burger place.”
“I promise not to get angry if your mother criticizes something about our house.”
“I promise to do whatever it takes to give you those fits of laughter that you can’t stop.”
6. Catholic marriage vows
In religious weddings the wedding vows are more classic, although the words may vary a little. Are:
The boyfriend: I, (name of the groom), love you, (name of the bride), as my wife and I give myself to you, and I promise to be faithful to you in prosperity and in adversity, in health and in sickness, and so on. love and respect you every day of my life.
Girlfriend: I, (name of the bride), love you, (name of the groom), as a husband and I give myself to you, and I promise to be faithful to you in prosperity and in adversity, in health and in sickness, and so on. love and respect you every day of my life.
7. Movie Wedding Vows
Cinema inspires us as always and that is why we have also made a small selection of some of the wedding vows from series and movies:
“Corpse Bride“. With this hand I will hold your desires, your cup will never be empty, because I will be your wine. With this candle I will light your path in the darkness and with this ring I ask you to be my wife.
“Runaway Bride“. I guarantee that there will be difficult times and I guarantee that at some point one or both of us will want to give it all up, but I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I will regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know deep down that you are made for me.
“Sex in New York“. Always yours, always mine, always ours.
“Noahs diary“. It won’t be easy, it will be very difficult. And we will have to work hard every day, but I want to do it because I love you. I want everything from you, forever, you and me, every day.
“Juno“: The best thing you can do is find a person who loves you exactly as you are. In a good mood, in a bad mood, ugly, pretty, attractive. That’s the kind of person that’s worth it..
“Something to remember“: There were a million little details, and when you added them all up you could see that we were made for each other. And I knew it, I knew it the first time I touched her. It was like coming home, only to a house I had never seen. And it was when he shook her hand to help her get out of a car… and I knew it. It was like… magic.
“The bridges of Madison“: I think the places I’ve been and the photos I’ve taken in my life have been leading me to you..
As an idea and last piece of advice, we recommend that you keep the paper with the written vows in a little box and some time later, on your anniversary for example, read them and remember those moments. It will be a very special memory!
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