Have couple, husband or wife does not imply that we approve of everything they do or that they please us. In the end, especially in coexistence, We must ignore numerous details that we do not like about the otherbecause no one is perfect and because you have to accept your partner as they are.
But, of course, there is a world from theory to practice. And many times, no matter how much we do inner work, There are habits of our partner that we cannot stand.
Today we are going to focus on a sexual habit that men usually have and that many women cannot stand, to the point of considering ending the relationship because of it. We tell you everything below.
The sexual habit that you should never prohibit your partner
Intimate relationship expert Tracey Cox has revealed on her blog that there is a sexual habit that many women cannot stand from their partner and, according to her, it is a mistake. We talk about the masturbationa very widespread practice but which, for various reasons, many women do not like.
Some women believe that masturbation is neither necessary nor appropriate in a relationship because a man must satisfy all of his sexual needs with his partner.
As the sexologist recognizes in Daily Mail, «almost everyone masturbates: 95% of men and 81% of women admit to having done so at some point. Probably that’s why nine out of 10 of us feel comfortable if our partner continues to do it once in the relationship. Most believe that it complements sex as a couple and increases erotic satisfaction. But not all. Some women believe that masturbation is not necessary nor appropriate in a relationship because The man must satisfy all his sexual needs with his partner».
Others believe that “solo sex is a betrayal and that the only sex allowed is sex as a couple. “There are still more people who believe that watching pornography (the bread and butter of solo sex) is both misleading and disgusting.”
Why you should not reproach him for masturbating (or prohibit him from doing so): what can happen
The therapist is clear: you should not make your partner feel bad for masturbating, since the following can happen:
- He will be angry and resentful: «It is understandable that this is so. (…) Masturbating is personal. If it doesn’t negatively affect your sex life together, it’s no one’s business but yours how and when you do it. Privacy is the foundation of a happy and healthy relationship. Trying to control what your partner does with their body when you’re not around is a violation of that. What comes next? Tell him he can’t fantasize?
- He will assume that you don’t enjoy sex.: «Very few women who enjoy masturbating would ever stop their partners from doing the same. (…) It is liberating, exciting and excellent for your libido. “Women who not only don’t mind their partner masturbating, but also have no judgment about it, tend to have a high libido and are adventurous in bed.”
Women who not only don’t mind their partner masturbating, but also have no judgment about it, tend to have a high libido and are adventurous in bed.
- He will want to have sex with you much more often: «Most couples have some type of disparity in their sex drive. In almost all cases, the frequency compromise is made in favor of the person with lower sexual desire. “If one wants sex five times a week and the other five times a month, it is very unlikely that they will say: ‘So, it’s three times a week!'” explains Cox, who emphasizes that if he stops masturbating for his partner , you will have to meet your needs, and your wife may not be willing to do so.
Masturbation will make you happier: positive effects on your brain
In addition to all this, we must be clear that masturbation is very good for our health. This has been demonstrated by numerous investigations, who have proven that sexual activities that lead to sexual pleasure or orgasm trigger the release of hormones and chemicals involved in the pleasure reward center of the brain, detail from Medical News Todayas:
- Dopamine: Known as the happiness hormone, it is an important neurotransmitter involved in motivation, movement, and the pursuit of rewards.
- Oxytocin– The “love” hormone promotes sexual, social, and maternal behaviors associated with happiness, and helps increase well-being, positive social interaction, growth, and healing.
- Serotonin: is a neurotransmitter that helps increase happiness, optimism and satisfaction. There is also a link between higher serotonin levels and improved mood.
- Endorphins: These are known as feel-good chemicals that reduce pain better than morphine. They are responsible for the boost of energy and spirit that we get when we exercise.
- Prolactin: is a hormone that promotes physiological responses for reproduction, stress management and emotional regulation.
- Endocannabinoids: These neurotransmitters are vital for rewarding behaviors such as exercise, social interaction, and eating. They also help regulate pain, inflammation, metabolism, cardiovascular function, learning and memory, anxiety, depression, and addiction.
- Norepinephrine/norepinephrine: It is a stimulating neurotransmitter that increases and regulates the transmission of dopamine, a substance linked to levels of happiness.
- Adrenalin: reduces stress by helping to regulate heart rate, blood vessel diameters and respiratory tracts, and also helps regulate different aspects of metabolism.
The release of these various hormones can lead to the following health benefits:
- Reduction of stress and anxiety.
- Improve sleepas this study confirmed.
- Pain reduction. A 2013 study showed that sexual activity leads to partial or complete relief of migraines and other headaches.
- Improve immune functionsince people who orgasm have higher levels of leukocytes, white blood cells that help protect the body from diseases.
- Improve moodthanks to dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins.
- Improve focus and concentration thanks to the increase in levels of hormones and neurotransmitters involved in learning, memory and motivation.
- Improve self-esteem.
- Improve sexual function.
- Reduced blood pressure.
- Lower risk of prostate cancer: Men who ejaculate 21 or more times a month throughout their lives, compared to those who do so between 4 and 7 times, have a 31% lower risk of developing prostate cancer.
- Increased life expectancy: Orgasms are associated with longevity. When you reach an orgasm, DHEA is also released, a natural anti-aging hormone that not only helps with the appearance of the skin and its rejuvenation, but also provides benefits to brain health and the immune system. Experiencing orgasms has been shown to contribute to living longer, with a 50% reduction in overall mortality, according to studies.
For all these reasons, masturbation is, literally, one of the best resources to take advantage of the body’s natural therapeutic potential, even when you have a partner, since normally greater self-knowledge of your own sexual pleasure reinforces and magnifies that experienced with others.
Obviously, everything has its limit, and If your partner spends all day touching himself or watching pornwell yes there would be a problem. But if this is not the case, there is no reason to bother or worry.